tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post1031754753023204848..comments2023-10-17T10:17:28.786-04:00Comments on The Exception: When I was younger, so much younger than today, I never needed anybody's help in any wayThe Exceptionhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13758654167029552230noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-78041900492770301852007-08-16T09:34:00.000-04:002007-08-16T09:34:00.000-04:00Scotty - Which leaves me wondering what you would ...Scotty - Which leaves me wondering what you would do were I there? or you here?The Exceptionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13758654167029552230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-60568444973422991592007-08-15T18:41:00.000-04:002007-08-15T18:41:00.000-04:00From here, I am thinking not so much.From here, I am thinking not so much.Scottyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09468559689572078636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-54444943126905689142007-08-15T09:06:00.000-04:002007-08-15T09:06:00.000-04:00Scotty - Do you have ways of making me talk???Scotty - Do you have ways of making me talk???The Exceptionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13758654167029552230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-86583721165127718732007-08-14T17:41:00.000-04:002007-08-14T17:41:00.000-04:00ummm... one that ncludes the exact date. no funny...ummm... one that ncludes the exact date. no funny business :)Scottyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09468559689572078636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-24851398087956345302007-08-14T16:17:00.000-04:002007-08-14T16:17:00.000-04:00What kind of hint would you like?What kind of hint would you like?The Exceptionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13758654167029552230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-55542191341145567162007-08-14T15:45:00.000-04:002007-08-14T15:45:00.000-04:00So now you have narrowed it down to 5 months..So now you have narrowed it down to 5 months..Scottyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09468559689572078636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-8952869361434487102007-08-14T14:09:00.000-04:002007-08-14T14:09:00.000-04:00You didn't like that hint... ?There are songs that...You didn't like that hint... ?<BR/><BR/>There are songs that contain the name of my month - old songs, but songs all the same.The Exceptionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13758654167029552230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-10828118725726101332007-08-14T14:06:00.000-04:002007-08-14T14:06:00.000-04:00Urgh.Urgh.Scottyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09468559689572078636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-59876630427017915702007-08-14T13:48:00.000-04:002007-08-14T13:48:00.000-04:00Scotty - Hint? It is between now and the end of t...Scotty - Hint? It is between now and the end of the year.The Exceptionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13758654167029552230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-7571310549828519702007-08-14T13:15:00.000-04:002007-08-14T13:15:00.000-04:00Yes. Or a hint at least.Yes. Or a hint at least.Scottyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09468559689572078636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-42114487466493891992007-08-14T09:26:00.000-04:002007-08-14T09:26:00.000-04:00Scotty - Do you think I am just going to offer up ...Scotty - Do you think I am just going to offer up such an important date without a bit of coaxing?<BR/><BR/>Ryan - Feel free to use this space to build your confidence as much as you like!<BR/><BR/>There is definitely something to what you wrote. As parents we encourage our kids to try to do it themselves before asking for help to help build their confidence and exercise those reasoning muscles. IT makes sense that, to some extent, the same idea carries through into our adult lives. <BR/><BR/>And for me, depending on someone else... well, that is truly a challenge. <BR/><BR/>Doozie - What you described truly is a horrible feeling. I have been there as well. For some, (most) I will drop most anything to help whenever possible. It is hard, given how rarely I do ask for help, when they will not lend a hand. I don't help because I want it in return, but... it would be nice if they would help all the same. <BR/><BR/>Ruby - That is a BIG part of it. <BR/><BR/>Airam - That safety net can be key. It is nice to know that someone is there if you ever need them - and even when you don't!<BR/><BR/>I think, for the most part, people do like to help. There are the few that just... don't.The Exceptionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13758654167029552230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-8798548094686565282007-08-14T05:51:00.000-04:002007-08-14T05:51:00.000-04:00You're not alone with the not being able to ask fo...You're not alone with the not being able to ask for help. I know that for me I felt inadequate if I ever needed it. But truth is sometimes I just need help and I feel so much better knowing that I've got a safety net so to speak. And think of it this way ... if you're happy to help your friends and family then chances are they feel the same way!Airamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06193964394693579433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-18916343634133801902007-08-13T23:32:00.000-04:002007-08-13T23:32:00.000-04:00Do you think maybe it's because you feel you don't...Do you think maybe it's because you feel you don't want to impose on someone else?rubytuesdayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14794787737162706371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-50624969543673793222007-08-13T23:15:00.000-04:002007-08-13T23:15:00.000-04:00strangely enough the very few times I've been at t...strangely enough the very few times I've been at the bottom of the pit and actually ASKED for help, no one responded....boy did that feel good after all the times I helped and all the times I went without help because I was too proud to ask. aint life awesome!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-58363433017995486772007-08-13T20:43:00.000-04:002007-08-13T20:43:00.000-04:00Being independent has a few drawbacks. I think yo...Being independent has a few drawbacks. I think you just nailed the one on the top of the list.<BR/><BR/>People become independent by doing little things for themselves, and then more things.... etc. It's a confidence thing. Asking for help has a little to do with pride, but more in losing a 'little' piece of confidence. <BR/><BR/>No one likes to lose any amount of confidence and without asking for help, even if the task takes longer and is tougher to accomplish - a greater sense of confidence is achieved and subconsciously the mind is saying "that was worth it".<BR/><BR/>I didn't really mean to use up that much of your space, but I feel more confident now that I have that out.Ryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02765027864261638959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-85078792959297170092007-08-13T16:46:00.000-04:002007-08-13T16:46:00.000-04:00Birthday? When?Birthday? When?Scottyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09468559689572078636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-40520906985920120872007-08-13T15:42:00.000-04:002007-08-13T15:42:00.000-04:00Mike - I can relate. Sometimes it is difficult to...Mike - I can relate. Sometimes it is difficult to ask for help if you have experienced a negative response. I got so tired of hearing "I wish I could, but" that I have stopped asking that person for help unless it is something truly important. It is difficult enough for me to ask for help; it is harder to hear all the reasons one wishes he/she could but can't.The Exceptionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13758654167029552230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-49648396704939308372007-08-13T15:04:00.000-04:002007-08-13T15:04:00.000-04:00Teri - Most definitely. People helping people is ...Teri - Most definitely. People helping people is the idea - even when those people are like a pride of lions. I definitely do not want to deprive them of the joy they will feel in helping me.... ;)<BR/><BR/>Willow - Oddly, that is one aspect I forgot. At work and when networking, I am great at asking for help too. It is all in my personal life. Just me, as mom, as woman, that is when asking for help becomes as issue.The Exceptionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13758654167029552230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-25485032001872619362007-08-13T15:01:00.000-04:002007-08-13T15:01:00.000-04:00For me asking for help was always connected to dis...For me asking for help was always connected to disappointment. You put some of yourself out there to find it is just left there to dry up in the sun. I've gotten better in my personal life, but businesswise I still have trouble not projecting the image of someone strong.Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13641318104807962051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-46259796850277277442007-08-13T14:20:00.001-04:002007-08-13T14:20:00.001-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.cathouse terihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02547258612468286876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-49351225271753039752007-08-13T14:20:00.000-04:002007-08-13T14:20:00.000-04:00I believe that it's people helping people that bin...I believe that it's people helping people that binds us. People... people who need people... are the luckiest people in the world! Right? <BR/><BR/>By not swallowing our pride (and that can be a lotta lions!) and asking others for help, we are depriving them of the opportunity and pleasure of doing their part.<BR/><BR/>Truly.<BR/><BR/>I should know. I have not a single lion left. Meow.cathouse terihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02547258612468286876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-41392245846846668102007-08-13T14:17:00.000-04:002007-08-13T14:17:00.000-04:00I noticed when I changed career/jobs that I had no...I noticed when I changed career/jobs that I had no problem whatsoever with asking for "help." I would never have landed this job, if I had been hesitant when it came to asking for help. I still do not hesitate to ask a colleague when I do not know the answer. I can't imagine where I would be, if I hadn't asked for help:)<BR/><BR/>Wait, yes I can--I'd still be at my last dead end job!Willowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07238343671095316145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-89965801444488992007-08-13T13:25:00.000-04:002007-08-13T13:25:00.000-04:00Yes, I agree with Aaron. It's a large group of li...Yes, I agree with Aaron. It's a large group of lions that keeps us from asking for help.<BR/><BR/>Pride sometimes comes in small packages. :)cathouse terihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02547258612468286876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-74226199336100386262007-08-13T12:08:00.000-04:002007-08-13T12:08:00.000-04:00Just Run - Simplifying is a start, but sometimes i...Just Run - Simplifying is a start, but sometimes it is just impossible to do all that needs to be done. Asking for help shouldn't be so difficult for us, but it is. <BR/><BR/>Kenneth SF - Thanks for dropping in!<BR/><BR/>Well stated. Other cultures live in a more communal environment. Helping one another is part of the lifestyle. I found it more "assumed" that there would be help when living abroad. Americans take pride in the ability to do it all on their own - with the popularity of digital relationships, I have a feeling that this will not change anytime soon.The Exceptionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13758654167029552230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-85376325721503011642007-08-13T12:00:00.000-04:002007-08-13T12:00:00.000-04:00I think asking for help is more acceptable in some...I think asking for help is more acceptable in some cultures than others. In Asia, where I grew up, people live in such tight-knit communities that they don't seem to mind asking one another for assistance. On the other hand, the West emphasizes self-reliance, so it's much harder to admit you need to lean on someone else at times. Ultimately, I think asking someone to help you is also a show of trust and confidence in the other person--it's an honor (or a burden) that some people aren't well-prepared for.Kennethwongsfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07963630600109933279noreply@blogger.com