tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post25526394912301482..comments2023-10-17T10:17:28.786-04:00Comments on The Exception: A Weighty IssueThe Exceptionhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13758654167029552230noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-88598277824456038392008-11-30T17:07:00.000-05:002008-11-30T17:07:00.000-05:00Since we are all part of the Society, I think it's...Since we are all part of the Society, I think it's incumbent upon us to develop new attitudes. If we defy the fashion industry and its marketing machine's insinuations, if we pay more attention to young women's--and young men's--character instead of their cosmetic perfection and outward appearance, we might have a healthier Society, both mentally and physically.Kennethwongsfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07963630600109933279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-13159618014754015672008-11-28T10:52:00.000-05:002008-11-28T10:52:00.000-05:00This is a very important topic. My daughter, unlik...This is a very important topic. My daughter, unlike yours though, is curvy in areas. And I worry about that -- not about who she is, but what others might say to her.<BR/><BR/>It's also a big problem, in my opinion, that several clothing brands and stores are selling 9 year olds clothes designed only to fit thin types -- and that look like mini-hoochie mamas to boot. Not good! Fortunately, I've found a few options we both like.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04712245590233116481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-77309157229919835222008-11-27T19:16:00.000-05:002008-11-27T19:16:00.000-05:00I have spent way too much time worrying about bein...I have spent way too much time worrying about being too fat or not thin enough - eventually wound up in the hospital at age 12 due to the stress of it<BR/><BR/>educaiton and open communication is key and it sounds like you and the Diva are spot on in both those areas!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-45594078712258346352008-11-25T19:11:00.000-05:002008-11-25T19:11:00.000-05:00I think it's great you talk to your daughter about...I think it's great you talk to your daughter about these things. I can only imagine looking down the barrel of that challenge.<BR/>A friend's daughter has a classmate that's anorexic at 10, and wears clothing made for 5-year-olds. She is in treatment but it is so very sad and scary.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-83322614728627305462008-11-25T15:23:00.000-05:002008-11-25T15:23:00.000-05:00How great that you talk to your daughter about tho...How great that you talk to your daughter about those things. My kids and I talk about healthy eating all the time, since they both play club sports (soccer and lacrosse). But we have plenty of ice cream! :-) They burn it off. Glad no boy is calling my daughter fat - I'd punch him.dadshousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01850838844108349101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-50635860336636877342008-11-25T13:56:00.000-05:002008-11-25T13:56:00.000-05:00I too teach my girls about eating well and exercis...I too teach my girls about eating well and exercising. The whole "body is a temple" thing as Mama Llama mentioned. My little one told me the other day that her teacher said "fat" was a bad word. I had to explain to her that if you call someone fat it might hurt their feelings but it is not a bad word. <BR/><BR/>I also teach them not to deny their bodies. I dieted so much as a young adult (20's and 30's) and my weight yo-yo-ed. It was after finally learning that I could eat whatever I wanted <I>in moderation</I> that I became healthier and at my perfect weight. I teach the importance of foods that are good for their bodies but also try to teach them moderation and balance. <BR/><BR/>There are many societal pressures placed on our kids at such a young age. All that we can do is try to keep the lines of communication open. And also, DEMONSTRATE.<BR/><BR/>I always loved the quote by Naomi Wolf': "A mother who radiates self-love and acceptance actually vaccinates her daughter against low self-esteem."<BR/><BR/>We need to work on ourselves most importantly.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10112766306021310705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-18536196942981034932008-11-25T12:02:00.000-05:002008-11-25T12:02:00.000-05:00I am constantly brain-washing my children on the i...I am constantly brain-washing my children on the idea of eating well, exercising and lifestyle diseases that develop as a result of the lack of such routines. Both my children had "thunder thighs", fed solely by my milk. I eat well so they eat well and learn that McDs is an extravagance not an everyday occurance. <BR/><BR/>We have also had to have the conversation about what is and is not appropriate to say to people or within earshot. Although, sometimes it is what others say that might be the greatest motivators for positive change in our lives...<BR/><BR/>Basic gist: treat your body like a temple. Period. And it will treat you well back. <BR/><BR/>Be well, TE.Mama Llamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04392701844744910258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-50972527894467070912008-11-25T11:47:00.000-05:002008-11-25T11:47:00.000-05:00Liz - Sorry, I miscommunicated that I think - the ...Liz - Sorry, I miscommunicated that I think - the mothers love that about babies (the rolls and tummies)and gush over it. It is cute and part of baby-hood... not a statement of health or fitness or anything of the sort. It is one of those "cute" things that I missed so I kept my mouth shut as I couldn't say "Oh the Diva had that..." <BR/><BR/>SOrry for the miscommunication!The Exceptionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13758654167029552230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-81879377630651490522008-11-25T10:40:00.000-05:002008-11-25T10:40:00.000-05:00Think it's good that you're already thinking about...Think it's good that you're already thinking about this, given the state of girls' body image issues in our society (especially considering she's a dancer!).<BR/><BR/>On your point about little ones with rolls and bellies not being fit...I don't think that is in any way an indication that a child isn't fit. My kids were both rollie pollies (and my younger one still has a little belly) but you've seen Jack, he's hardly unfit.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com