tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post3892165385307119260..comments2023-10-17T10:17:28.786-04:00Comments on The Exception: The Silent TreatmentThe Exceptionhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13758654167029552230noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-64963576042791165172008-08-19T10:21:00.000-04:002008-08-19T10:21:00.000-04:00T - I talk because I want to be heard - we all hav...T - I talk because I want to be heard - we all have different perspectives (which I love) but I hate it when I know, beyond doubt, that the one to which I speak is not hearing mine. I don't care if he agrees with me - just that he opens his mind/heart enough to listen. <BR/><BR/>DH - Using sex to manipulate boggles my mind. It is this amazing thing and yet so powerful. Perhaps the draw of using it against another is one some can't resist. <BR/><BR/>7 Seas - Good to see you! Before using a weapon, people should consider the results of its use!<BR/><BR/>Harassed Mom - Welcome aboard. It drives me crazy when I realize that I am talking and... no one is listening - or hearing what it is I am saying. I am working on it though. I suppose if someone doesn't want to hear my perspective, then it is better for me to stop talking. I only hope that I don't close my mind to the perspectives of others. <BR/><BR/>Sex is power at the most basic level.The Exceptionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13758654167029552230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-3754173974431150192008-08-18T23:17:00.000-04:002008-08-18T23:17:00.000-04:00I talk to much - even when the listener has stoppe...I talk to much - even when the listener has stopped listening - I keep talking! I irratate myself sometimes to be honest!<BR/><BR/>I cant do the silent treatment! There is NOTHING more frustrating for me when someone does use it!<BR/><BR/>Why use sex? Cos its about the biggest thing you CAN deny in a r/ship. A few months before my ex and I split - I used it but in the opposite way! I gave it freely and often - it distracted him from fighting with me! It was VERY wrong but at the time it was easier than spending my evenings being yelled at.<BR/><BR/>Denying it is about control - I have what you want and until you do what I want you wont get it!<BR/><BR/>It is not something I would ever do now!!!<BR/><BR/>(Found you on Dadshouse)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-68538170072173955072008-08-18T20:47:00.000-04:002008-08-18T20:47:00.000-04:00It is a sad thing, that some will use any weapon a...It is a sad thing, that some will use any weapon at hand in a fight.Seven Seashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08290358977801525806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-39803051099575007172008-08-18T11:57:00.000-04:002008-08-18T11:57:00.000-04:00Denying sex and touch - I hate games like that! I ...Denying sex and touch - I hate games like that! I totally agree with you that sex and touch shouldn't be used to manipulate, but should bring two people close together. <BR/><BR/>Yes, we all have different perspectives. No object or action has any intrinsic meaning at all. The world is what we individually see, think, and feel.dadshousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01850838844108349101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-5471708090105461092008-08-18T10:40:00.000-04:002008-08-18T10:40:00.000-04:00This is interesting to me because, thankfully, it ...This is interesting to me because, thankfully, it has been a really long time since I was in disagreement with someone. I think it wore me out to disagree with the ex for so long... now I try not to enforce my views on people. Everyone is doing the best with what they know <I>right now</I>. Including me.<BR/><BR/>I agree with you though. I used to talk and talk just to see if I could convince someone to see my point of view. And then one day I realized, we all have differing perceptions and you can't force anyone to see things as you do. They were raised differently. They have had different experiences. They have differing ideas of the past and the future. We can only do our best.<BR/><BR/>Why use sex? I have no idea. Maybe because when you feel as if you are not being listened to, it is difficult to connect with someone on such a vulnerable level. But perhaps, if we were vulnerable together, we would then be more apt to listening?https://www.blogger.com/profile/10112766306021310705noreply@blogger.com