tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post3946549555320434099..comments2023-10-17T10:17:28.786-04:00Comments on The Exception: Hunters and Gatherers (Caution: Generalities in Use)The Exceptionhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13758654167029552230noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-75795046671513470422008-10-02T16:04:00.000-04:002008-10-02T16:04:00.000-04:00I agree that I have flakey friends on both sides b...I agree that I have flakey friends on both sides but seem to notice flaky girlfriends more. <BR/><BR/>Its funny. I was just hearing this same thing from my soldier the other day. He gets upset when friends of his get married/have kids and he never hears from them after that. I have to explain to him what happens once you settle down. He likes to stay in touch and in fact chides me that I didn't do a better job of it!<BR/><BR/>I haven't noticed a trend either way, actually. I have friends, male and female, that contact me regularly and others (again male and female) whose contact is more sporadic. <BR/><BR/>Interesting view point though. A man brought this to your attention? Hmmm.....https://www.blogger.com/profile/10112766306021310705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-60213685335875616512008-10-02T14:08:00.000-04:002008-10-02T14:08:00.000-04:00Flakes definitely cross the gender lines. I don't...Flakes definitely cross the gender lines. I don't notice it as much with women as I have learned to invest only what is invested in return. Learned the hard way... but that is a different story!<BR/><BR/>Men, on the other hand, it is more difficult to identify the flake from the natural patterns of the male friendship. I never know when it is a natural flow or space and such and when it is a pulling away or a lack of interest. Male friends will call another guy a flake - only out for his own interest while I would never see it believing that his behavior is not different than theirs from time to time.The Exceptionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13758654167029552230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-23793475629381662422008-10-02T13:52:00.000-04:002008-10-02T13:52:00.000-04:00Interesting post. I agree that "flakes" as you def...Interesting post. I agree that "flakes" as you define them exist across the gender lines. I can think of one mom blogger in particular who uses the community for her own purpose, but doesn't seem to care for the individuals. (I don't comment on her blog anymore)<BR/><BR/>As for hunters and gatherers - I agree that deep in our psychological core, men are programmed to provide and women to nurture. Evolution has blurred those boundaries. But I think women are more in tune with emotions - they are hardwired to their entire being. And women are generally better at fostering consensus and building community.dadshousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01850838844108349101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-69889103554401872212008-10-02T12:49:00.000-04:002008-10-02T12:49:00.000-04:00mmm this is interesting. If I think about the few ...mmm this is interesting. If I think about the few male friends I have - the contact is sporadic but the friendships seem to last longer than those with women who I have regular contact with?<BR/><BR/>Flakes exist across the gender lines! And I have experienced more female flakes!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-69851122683050147022008-10-02T10:20:00.000-04:002008-10-02T10:20:00.000-04:00(My second typo today. I think I'll hang up my sp...(My second typo today. I think I'll hang up my spurs.) :)cathouse terihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02547258612468286876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-88878172509211098302008-10-02T10:19:00.000-04:002008-10-02T10:19:00.000-04:00I don't think it's a man thing. I know plenty of ...I don't think it's a man thing. I know plenty of women who are "the flakes."<BR/><BR/>And I don't do any work in trying to maintain that sort of relationship.<BR/><BR/>Men may not have a natural incliniation to "keep in touch" but I have known plenty who choose to. And they reap the benefits of some great relationships.cathouse terihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02547258612468286876noreply@blogger.com