tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post4709108598754469926..comments2023-10-17T10:17:28.786-04:00Comments on The Exception: The Things Kids Talk AboutThe Exceptionhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13758654167029552230noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-19442475763111045662008-08-08T07:01:00.000-04:002008-08-08T07:01:00.000-04:00Syd - Honesty is the only way I fly with her... an...Syd - Honesty is the only way I fly with her... and so it is what she tells her friends and other kids. Being different is hard but I am also teaching her that everyone is different despite what it might seem!<BR/><BR/>JR - I started early once I realized the make-up of our neighborhood. I can't imagine that it is easy but to survive her parents will demonstrate just how tough she is! <BR/><BR/>DH - It was funny and there are times when I wish she could just laugh it off, but she hasn't acheived that yet. It didn't hurt her as much as it puzzled her. She isn't allowed to discuss "mating" with other kids so she was left with "I do too!"<BR/><BR/>I have discussed it with other parents - and with time and sadly, more changes in family structures, things will change. Kids are amazing creatures!<BR/><BR/>Emma - I do hope that she is more understanding of diversity. She seems to be thus far but could change her mind at any moment! ;) I do the best I can to take things as hey come but... I dream too...The Exceptionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13758654167029552230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-18117666314175876182008-08-07T03:18:00.000-04:002008-08-07T03:18:00.000-04:00You have a very unique child who will grow up wise...You have a very unique child who will grow up wise and with her eyes wide open because she has a loving wonderful and supportive mother like you. I always notice how in your posts you try to take things as they come, make the best choices possible along the way, and I think the Diva does and will notice this. Hopefully her difference will be something she embraces, and that she learns that her own relationship with her father is what counts, not what the other kids think.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-60667610496913517592008-08-06T20:23:00.000-04:002008-08-06T20:23:00.000-04:00You don't have a dad - I actually laughed when I f...<I>You don't have a dad</I> - I actually laughed when I first read that. Kids say the darndest things. But then I realized your daughter didn't laugh when it was said to her. Those are very unkind words for a child to hear. It's a real problem that you might address beyond your own home.<BR/><BR/>Have you called their mom or dad to have a chat about it? Maybe if those kids got some information and positive reinforement at their home from their family, they'd be nicer to your daughter.<BR/><BR/>My kids are similar in that there are hardly any divorced families where we live. But just having a few means my kids aren't alone. And as they grow, they meet more and more kids from non-traditional families.<BR/><BR/>I think it's great how you are interacting with your daughter, and not teaching her to be bitter about her dad. Those other kids will fade away eventually, and hopefully their attitudes will change toward your girl.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-22889160837652081602008-08-06T15:53:00.000-04:002008-08-06T15:53:00.000-04:00Oh wow. You are an amazing mother to her. She is f...Oh wow. You are an amazing mother to her. She is fortunate that you do all that you do! You see her and teach her in a way that speaks volumes about your relationship. <BR/><BR/>I love the last line. That is how I describe any relationship. People want to give their own definition to relationships be it between parent and child or two people falling in love with each other. Only the people involved know the truth of it. <BR/><BR/>What a sweet post!https://www.blogger.com/profile/10112766306021310705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-10030019424842882482008-08-06T14:32:00.000-04:002008-08-06T14:32:00.000-04:00Oh, boy, do I hear this. I was that kid, my siste...Oh, boy, do I hear this. I was that kid, my sister and I both. And though we knew, it was nearly impossible to explain to everyone else. It almost felt as though we had to prove ourselves more. It's a struggle, yes, but I think it also taught us a lot about judging people.<BR/><BR/>I think the best thing you can reinforce, that I'm not sure my mom did enough, is that it's OKAY. That different household structures do not make us more or less valuable as a person. I'm not meaning to give advice here, it's just that not having dad at home is nothing to be ashamed of (obviously you know this), but there were times as a child when I felt just that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-63079627215912134362008-08-06T11:58:00.000-04:002008-08-06T11:58:00.000-04:00Oh boy, do I hear you. We have a similar family si...Oh boy, do I hear you. We have a similar family situation, plus an older sister who has a dad that I *was* married to. A little bit too close to Jerry Springer material for comfort - but we're just a normal, average family otherwise - who all gets along fine, and even has family picnics all together. My 7 year old is already starting to get the questions from her peers as well, and I wish I knew how to better prepare her. So far she just answers matter of factly. Like, of course this is how our family works. Doesn't yours?sydneypaigehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05725838224039558344noreply@blogger.com