tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post5461999835150226254..comments2023-10-17T10:17:28.786-04:00Comments on The Exception: What is the Modern Dating Age???The Exceptionhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13758654167029552230noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-19377045450797954482008-09-23T16:14:00.000-04:002008-09-23T16:14:00.000-04:00My son is 12 and he is not allowed to have a faceb...My son is 12 and he is not allowed to have a facebook or myspace page yet. Once I do decide to let him, I will have the passwords. I wrote an article about the danagers of myspace, if anyone is interested. <BR/><BR/>http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/981312/how_to_protect_your_kids_from_the_dangers.html?cat=25Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-36238135758833021122008-09-20T02:52:00.000-04:002008-09-20T02:52:00.000-04:00My two daughters (soon to be 13 and an 8 yr old go...My two daughters (soon to be 13 and an 8 yr old going on 19) can date as soon as they own their own homes!!!!!!Scorpyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08203322219391097955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-87802203994277374172008-09-19T15:49:00.000-04:002008-09-19T15:49:00.000-04:00I started responding and it turned into a rambling...I started responding and it turned into a rambling mess.<BR/><BR/>Not there yet (thank God). Don't quite know what I will do when I get there, but I pray for guidance and wisdom to stay open and alert, and to keep the communication lines open as much as possible. <BR/><BR/>I had a set age: 16 for dates. And home by 10 at the absolute latest. That didn't change much when I went to college, either. I was timed on phone calls my uni boyfriend made to me, 20 minutes then I had to hang up. My parents were strict...and I was 19.<BR/><BR/>Cell phones? Texting? IMs? Difficult questions. One thing is for sure: in my house, I make sure the kids know that everything they do on the Internet and elsewhere can always be observed and interrupted by me. Just so that they're used to the lack of secrecy. Period. <BR/><BR/>Doubt that will help much later, but who knows?<BR/><BR/>In Jr. High I had boys (only the geeks, mind you, as I was taller than more than half the boys in jr. high) after me...one made me a gingerbread sleigh with a love poem tucked into Santa's bag. Wow. 14 years old. Nobody's ever done much like that for me since.<BR/><BR/>Be well, TE.Mama Llamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04392701844744910258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-57532386672018835832008-09-19T14:59:00.000-04:002008-09-19T14:59:00.000-04:00I try not to think about it. Its too much to deal ...I try not to think about it. Its too much to deal with on my own with 2 little girls. Ugh!!<BR/><BR/>The thought never entered my mind until my soldier said one day, "You need to get those girls in sports. That way they'll use something else for their self-esteem other than boys. Keep the boys far away from them."<BR/><BR/>I love how he acts like their father. I really do.<BR/><BR/>I think it hold true with the Diva's ballet. And your own self-esteem too. I heard a quote once about how a mother's self-esteem affects her daughter's and I truly believe it. I think the Diva will be fine. She seems like a girl who can hold her own just fine.<BR/><BR/>Yep, times have changed. We just need to adapt, don't we?https://www.blogger.com/profile/10112766306021310705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-65116593216634552582008-09-19T12:46:00.000-04:002008-09-19T12:46:00.000-04:00I agree that 12 seems young to date. I know neighb...I agree that 12 seems young to date. I know neighbor kids who were hanging out in flirty boy/girls packs at that age. The big deal for them was to "talk" about who was with who. I'm tempted to say they didn't take it farther than that. But I also know the middle school had a problem with boys demanding oral sex from girls in the bathroom. (Don't you love when an issue can escalate to a fearful place, just like that. Where's Jerry Springer when you need him?)<BR/><BR/>My daughter is 16 and only started the group movie dates last year. She was super involved in soccer (still is), and I think that staved boys off for quite a while.<BR/><BR/>As for Diva's Dad - taken as a joke, his comment is pretty darn funny. But I get why it would tick you off. You wanted a serious response.dadshousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01850838844108349101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-54408899849543622762008-09-19T12:22:00.000-04:002008-09-19T12:22:00.000-04:00This is a good question; but, I think you are over...This is a good question; but, I think you are over thinking it.<BR/><BR/>Yea, yea I know, I did the same when my daughter was that age. Not that she is about close to leaving her teenage years behind I see that I didn't need to worry about classifying and analyzing every aspect of her life.<BR/><BR/>The Diva will figure out the difference between hanging out with friends and dating. The best we can do as parents is to give them a good solid foundation for making good decisions. (It's easy to see from your blog you've been working on that since the Diva was a baby.)<BR/><BR/>Hard as it will be to do, let her make her own way figuring out boys. She may need a little guidance now and then. But mostly she'll know what to do.<BR/><BR/>I shared with my daughter just one or two simple rules that (I hope) will serve her well for the rest of her life.<BR/><BR/>1. If a boy (man) ever raises his hand to strike you in anger, drop him like last week's smelly garbage.<BR/><BR/>2. Look for people who are kind and thoughtful to <B>everyone</B>. Those who are disrespectful or hateful to anyone will some day turn that way toward you.<BR/><BR/>Finally, while what your Ex said was mildly humorous (assuming he meant it that way) he still deserves a dope slap for that comment.<BR/><BR/>Have a great weekend.<BR/><BR/>TAGTAGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06235937547319244705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-9726012767919854122008-09-19T11:40:00.000-04:002008-09-19T11:40:00.000-04:00Not quite sure on many of the answers. However so...Not quite sure on many of the answers. However so you know MySpace has a 14 and over rule. I would guess so do the other sites. <BR/><BR/>If you have the computer in an open area there is less chance of bad stuff happening.Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13641318104807962051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-10550480308456630772008-09-19T10:43:00.000-04:002008-09-19T10:43:00.000-04:00I told my kids that dating is for married people. ...I told my kids that dating is for married people. :)<BR/><BR/>I'm kinda serious. One-on-one dating is no way to get to know someone. Courting is the thing. <BR/><BR/>But I don't think you'll have any trouble with the Diva.cathouse terihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02547258612468286876noreply@blogger.com