tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post8032826224957286053..comments2023-10-17T10:17:28.786-04:00Comments on The Exception: The E-mailThe Exceptionhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13758654167029552230noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-4375573024500744752007-06-19T07:45:00.000-04:002007-06-19T07:45:00.000-04:00While I can't say I understand what you're going t...While I can't say I understand what you're going through since I don't have kids, I can definitely imagine how difficult it must be to deal with situations like that and I'm sorry this is happening to you.kapgarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01241253793033972435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-43342292516090097782007-06-16T17:02:00.000-04:002007-06-16T17:02:00.000-04:00Oh what a pity! It must feel awful to have to mis...Oh what a pity! It must feel awful to have to miss this event for your daughter - but as you said, you (for the most part) don't miss the special days in her life, and that is a tremendous feat on your part.Carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01823526303210030475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-56521510282967130052007-06-15T15:38:00.000-04:002007-06-15T15:38:00.000-04:00Teri - Being a mother is the hardest job I think I...Teri - Being a mother is the hardest job I think I will ever have and it is the one that I will always love the most.The Exceptionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13758654167029552230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-24319497316149186082007-06-15T15:17:00.000-04:002007-06-15T15:17:00.000-04:00Well, I believe you have read my analogy for being...Well, I believe you have read my analogy for being a mother. It feels like a steel post is driven down through your body and the only way it will kill you is if it is removed. <BR/><BR/>It does NOT get easier as they get older, the heartbreaks get bigger. <BR/><BR/>The other night, I was discussing something with my boyfriend and I said, "Don't worry about it, it's not like it's going to kill me." He said, "Well you sound like it's going to kill you." I laughed and said, "Oh no, I was killed long before you even met me."<BR/><BR/>As a mother, I feel like I've been killed several times a day for 26 years. I would imagine I have at least 26 to go.cathouse terihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02547258612468286876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-32916831663802037842007-06-15T10:40:00.000-04:002007-06-15T10:40:00.000-04:00Eric - Exactly it. We just do something special l...Eric - Exactly it. We just do something special later. <BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>Beth - She is a great kid. I like being fully engaged when I am able to go with her etc. <BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>Ruby - I turn the phone off for such things. If someone wants me, they can leave a message.<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>Just Run - I might miss the event, but I will hear all about it, several times, when she gets home. It will be just like I was there.<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>T-Shirt - I agree. It is the intent and desire.<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>Scott - Oh she knows I care. The recognition she will receive today is for things that we did together. In other words, she did it on her own but given it is all athletic in nature, I was there too!<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>Teri - Wait a second... human? I am... human? (Stunned silence) Why hasn't anyone told me this before? <BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>I do have the desire to do everything and be everywhere - to be the perfect parent to make-up for the parent she doesn't have, but yes, I know I am human. Things like this hurt my heart, but they are the small things. I do not worry about them for more than the original sensation.The Exceptionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13758654167029552230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-19946598151394421712007-06-14T21:27:00.000-04:002007-06-14T21:27:00.000-04:00Oh for goodness sake, stop torturing yourself over...Oh for goodness sake, stop torturing yourself over the small stuff! You are a superb mother who attends to her child selflessly. Your daughter knows this. She will understand your human-ness, but will you?<BR/><BR/>Honestly, babe, there are so many things to fret over... let this not be one of them.<BR/><BR/>Be happy and at peace.cathouse terihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02547258612468286876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-2424989504511288112007-06-14T19:18:00.000-04:002007-06-14T19:18:00.000-04:00I think the important part is that she knows you c...I think the important part is that she knows you care, and she also knows you would be there if you could.Scottyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09468559689572078636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-31429172615930544232007-06-14T17:55:00.000-04:002007-06-14T17:55:00.000-04:00That is so hard, I've occasionally had to miss som...That is so hard, I've occasionally had to miss something very special to one of my boys too. In the end though, they know I really wanted to be there when I couldn't and I think that is what matters the most :)Have the T-shirthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12144662999404716735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-69542361575128095312007-06-14T16:46:00.000-04:002007-06-14T16:46:00.000-04:00I'm sorry you have to miss the event. That's a fe...I'm sorry you have to miss the event. That's a feeling I can't even imagine.JustRunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03621925857881380555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-7628655360678953922007-06-14T14:11:00.000-04:002007-06-14T14:11:00.000-04:00I'm sorry that you have to miss this and that your...I'm sorry that you have to miss this and that your parents won't be able to make it in time. Better to be the parent who makes the real effort (ie you) than the one who shows up but doesn't notice the kid b.c the crackberry/phone/etc is beckoning.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-80730991647684714632007-06-14T13:23:00.000-04:002007-06-14T13:23:00.000-04:00I'm sorry that you have to miss this. Your daught...I'm sorry that you have to miss this. Your daughter seems very mature and understanding. And, you know, it is a million times better to be a parent who loves and nutures her child and occasionally has to miss an event than to be the parent who goes faithfully, but talks on the phone the whole time and doesn't show affection towards his child.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14948982509240292077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9218017137310902714.post-23420918297806261532007-06-14T12:18:00.000-04:002007-06-14T12:18:00.000-04:00I totally understand what you are going through. ...I totally understand what you are going through. I do it everyday.<BR/><BR/>My son loves for daddy to be a part of everything, but sometimes I can't and I know it hurts his feelings, but he understands. I always make up for it when we are at home.<BR/><BR/>When I have to miss events with him, I will do something special at home with him to make up for it. We play together or watch movies, or I will make a porject with him, just anything he likes to do. I give him the whole night and I let him stay up a little later. He values that.Erichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04695313618635056219noreply@blogger.com