The world in which I live is a fog of pink and red and sugary mist. Everywhere I turn, it is as if I have left the cold and gray days of February and landed somewhere in Candy Land. I am not sure it is because I have been working through a low grade fever for a bit now or if, perhaps, Valentine’s Day is approaching?
Or maybe it is both?
I remember Valentine’s day as a child – the little candies and cards stuffed into boxes or decorated holders on our desks – The delight in receiving the funny cards. *sigh*
I can’t remember when the day began to take an emotional turn in that the type of card received or the flowers, gifts, or chocolate made a difference? That the feelings of another were captured and reflected in this one day a year. It started somewhere in youth – that attachment to the emotional side of the celebration of Valentine’s Day… and for many, it is carried into adulthood. I know plenty of women who are quite attached to what they “receive” on 14 February and men who don’t meet the mark or go through a great deal of stress trying to live up to the expectations of the day.
I am just not sure that I understand why?
Why women place so much on this day?
Why men stress out about it?
Why there is an expectation that the love expressed on 14 February is defining? Why we believe that love is reflected in the expense of the gift or the dinner or the material aspects of this date?
“Love is for everyday” I answered the questions of my daughter that echo my own above, as we entered a balloon and heart filled store awash with every color of red and pink one could imagine.
This is what I believe – it is what I am hoping my daughter will remember when push comes to shove and one day a man works late on Valentine’s day or doesn’t give her a diamond or there is no “love” in the picture at all.
Love is more than a box of chocolates or diamonds or cards or a fancy dinner. I am not sure that any of those things are love no matter how we might want them to be.
Love is the every day, the sharing, the caring, the time spent together… the respect, the compassion the honesty
It is fun to celebrate Valentine’s day and become lost in the sugary pink sweetness…
And it is fun to celebrate love each and every day, not just a day in the middle of February.