"She makes the best chocolate chip cookies."
I looked at him and jokingly said "Impossible."
I am not sure why such a phrase hits me as it does but the idea that
someone else "might" make better bookies than I do... well, them there
are fighting words!
But it isn't the competition; it isn't that I am seeing this sentence as
a challenge. My womanhood and femininity do not rest on my ability to
bake nor does my attractiveness depend upon the brand of flower or the
make of chocolate chosen.
I recognize all of this.
I get it, I really do.
That said, the sentence leaves me considering options, mentally digging
through recipes, and wondering when or if I will have a chance to bake
in the near future.
Perhaps it is that I just want an excuse to bake?
It could be that there is some basic instinct in me to nurture through
providing something that so obviously brings joy to someone.
With this in mind, note that I have baked and sent brownies to Thailand;
to Sweden; and, to this and that person throughout the US. In the
first two cases, it was purely because I knew that these two friends
Further, there is nothing like a home baked treat from a friend or someone who cares.
Could it be then that the phrase is not necessarily "fighting words" but
more an insight into a means of demonstrating care, at one point, for
Does it matter if the person in question is male?
I laugh to myself at this thought. Over the past few months I have
treated people with croisants on Monday mornings, a chocolate surprise
when I hear "I need chocolate," and a snuggly is currently drying in my
laundry room for a friend who is freezing every day at her desk.
A friend of mine takes great delight in pointing out how I am or am not a
Virgo (my birth sun sign). Virgos are the mothers of the world she
tells me. Most of the time I don't really see that quality in myself.
I am a care giver to nature, love animals, have a soft spot for
children, and can be a detached analyst at the drop of a hat.
But I have my moments... I learn of a person's birthday, I know someone
needs a care package (or I feel I need to send one), or I hear the
sentence... She makes the best chocolate chip cookies... and I hear, a
means of demonstrating humanity, care, and recognition of a soul.