I learn so much about so many different things from men. I mean, if I need an off the wall question answered, I know I can pick up the phone, call a man and... question answered. If I feel myself becoming too serious, I can count on a man to remind me that it is important to be a kid sometimes and have fun - that life doesn't have to be so serious all the time. and when it comes to sex, the things I learn from men astound me.
I had an e-mail from a friend a few weeks ago asking if women really squirt. Apparently he thought that this was just something that happened in the movies - that Hollywood magic I suppose. I assured him that women really can squirt and was actually pretty thrilled that I could teach a man something on the subject as it is usually the other way around.
From men I have learned so many things - sometimes via personal experience and sometimes with friends just through conversation. I mean, the basket hanging form the ceiling thing... seriously, that one boggles my mind still, but I learned about it from a guy.
Of course, one of the questions that is usually asked - What is your favorite position?
Do people actually have a favorite? I mean, seriously, how can you choose? There are just so many that work in different ways and with different people and fit different moods. On the bottom, on top, standing up, sitting down, from behind...I like them each for different reasons, but I am well aware that there are so many I have yet to try - who knows, one of those unexplored variations might blow my mind and provide me with an answer to this question!
I remember sitting in a bar on Chestnut street in San Francisco talking to a guy a few years younger than myself. Sex, as often happens, became the topic of choice. The question was posed, which did the guy prefer - penetration, oral, or giving oral? His answer, the second. He preferred receiving oral to anything else. In all honesty, his answer surprised me. Naively perhaps, I had always believed that people would prefer penetration above and beyond everything else. Never fear, he was quizzed as to his preference. Something about warmth and suction and tongue motions...
I am the first to admit that a master of the Kama Sutra I am not. I have much to learn about the pleasure of the flesh and am both an avid and enthusiastic student. I considered recently what my response would have been had I been asked the same question - which of the three I prefer. With so much room for creativity and innovation; with the diversity of skills of the partner; and the infusion of chemistry, choosing one of the three is something I find as impossible as picking a favorite position.
What about you - preferences? Favorite position?