The question is, do I attract those men or is it those men that are drawn to me?
This is the question that has been on my mind, in a subtle sense, for the past few weeks. Do I look for these guys? These guys that have the same characteristics and who are not available or… is there something about me that draws them in like bees to honey?
Is there something within each of us that continually looks for the same type of person – character wise not necessarily physically speaking?
When I asked this of a guy friend, he said, YES. You are not exactly putting out that “I am available” vibe.
Another furthered this idea by suggesting that men can tell that I am not sure that I want a huge, full time, 24/7 commitment. Thus, the men that are drawn to me are those who are otherwise engaged or have a life that requires their attention as mine requires mine.
The first also suggested that maybe I am flirt worthy and approachable from a friend stand point but not for anything else. Which is interesting as I flirt, I am flirted with lots, and even checked out often enough. That said, the approach rarely happens. (Perhaps this is because I am often out with my daughter?)
Dad’s House would tell me that I need to continually ask the universe for what it is that I want… to play the game of life!
But what if what I want just isn’t feasible? What if such a relationship is not possible? I have a feeling that the man I want just doesn’t exist!