"I didn't know you were into younger guys" came across my e-mail last week from a graduate school friend. I love these off the wall e-mail at work. To think, this old friend took time out of his day chasing the bad guys to wonder about my flirtations…?!
"I am not into younger guys, just this one." I responded
"What is it about this one?”
Ah… chemistry, the great X factor – the unknown variable that comes into play at the most odd of times.
I am usually drawn to men slightly older than myself due to maturity, confidence, and experience. Or maybe it is simply that I usually feel chemistry with these men and they happen to be older.
There are occasions though when, to be honest, I notice younger men.
For whatever reason they catch my attention. It could be the waiter at Red Robin or the guy standing next to me in a cafe in Foggy Bottom or the young coworker with the cute glasses and we won’t even talk about all the baseball players in Omaha while I was there last June… *swoon*
I am not sure what it is that draws my attention, but it is drawn and I catch myself looking, checking out, and even flirting should the chance arise.
I never realized this exactly until I commented to a statement made by a former classmate. He thought it was kind of funny that I had cougar leanings or thoughts.
Me, a cougar? Wait a minute…
And then I thought about what I had stated and what I just stated and... Wow... am I a cougar? Seriously? Now that I am nearing 40, am I becoming a cougar?
The same guy explained briefly that I am too young to be a cougar, which honestly confused me all the more. Is there an age at which one can wear the cougar label? Do I have to be say... 40 or 42...? Or maybe it is 45 before I am considered a cougar when I glance at or am attracted to a younger man? And how young does said man have to be for me to be a cougar?
But to make the matter that much more confusing, I then wondered what men are called? Women are cougars, so what is a man called when he dates or is attracted to a younger woman? Is there ever a term for him as there is for the woman? (And there is for the woman if she is the youngest of the pair or if she is the older, ever notice that?)
The man is, of course, probably considered a "stud"
While the woman would be a cougar
But then again, who knows. It is all somewhat confusing and mind boggling. All these labels and terms and definitions when the truth is that chemistry is chemistry and love is love and age doesn't really come in to play in either case!