Can we move forward and embrace today or the future without reconciling the past?
This is the question I find myself asking today.
I recognize the importance of understanding that reality is today. Investing time in what we could have, should have, or would have done is not using the time wisely. However, can we truly live honestly in today without coming to terms with the road that we have traveled or the places we have been?
I have known people with the ability to let the past go as if it never happened. It is an attitude that I find curious as it is one I don’t fully understand, especially if the past contains significant events. But they manage it. They look forward, focus on the future, and off they go. Is it that easy? If I just take events of the past, the painful and hurtful events that reached in and changed my life and touched my soul, and forget them, would that work? Is it all about making that choice to treat those events and that pain as if they are nothing? Is forgiving and letting go as simple as it is to say the words?
I wonder at their ability to do so as I sit pondering where I have been now and again. I take this or that circumstance out and look at it… what does that mean? Did I learn anything from that experience? Do I forgive and accept?
Sometimes I feel that my mind does this for me without my consciously doing it myself. Events and thoughts “pop” into my mind requesting attention.
Perhaps I am one who believes that until a lesson is learned and accepted, we are bound to sit through the class time and time again with the process likely becoming more difficult. Some lessons come easily while some require thought and realization and forgiveness and work. I have to honestly accept and forgive my past in order for me, personally, to live fully in today with integrity.
I know I am one who believes that our experiences are part of who we are. Sometimes it is painful to look at something experienced in the past… but without looking at it and allowing ourselves to fully feel that and then let it go… can we move forward?
That is the question to which I return… Can we move forward, honestly living in today, without forgiving, accepting, or learning from the past?