Some women naturally have it; some don't. I am one of those who doesn't. I can not pretend to be something I am not, even for the sake of a man. Yes, this might explain why I am not married; but it also may explain why I am not sure that I want to be married!
Mr. Write Now posted about women treating men like a king (at least in the bedroom). I just can't do it. Sorry guys, that isn't the way I work or play. Similarly, I do not wait for a man to fix this or that, perform household repairs, or "save the day."
I have had friends who inspire women and men to protect them as if they are precious, priceless, china dolls that will break with the slightest hint of a problem. Of course, these women will not break. yet, we, including me, behave as if they will.
Then there are others, like me, who are probably a bit too independent for the average man. Like my friend who would not tell men where she worked or what she did because it had created an awkward situation in her past.
men are not, repeat that... NOT, inspired to protect me, save me, take care of me, or anything of the sort. They are often most inspired to banter, befriend, or simply accept my independence and move on. In frequently I will meet a man who enjoys being my equal and finds my qualities (intellectual and personality wise that is) desirable and wishes to hang around. I have yet to meet a man who has determined it worth while to go toe to toe with me out of a desire to be the yin to my yang; the salt to my pepper .
I accept who I am. I like who I am and wouldn't change if I could. And yet, I do wonder what it is to have the men fawning over me in a desire to please, to protect, to serve.
I am not a china doll. I would not look good on a pedestal. I like living life with the masses, getting my hands dirty, exploring the world around me, making mistakes and riding the rollercoaster that is life. I like being one of the guys. I honestly don't know what I would do if some guy truly tried to be my hero. I would rather he be my friend and lover.
I like being the velveteen rabbit.