"You have sexy hair"
"I don't understand why all women don't do that."
"What" prepared to enlighten this clueless man on the reality of hair, I adjusted myself in the seat and settled in for a discussion.
"I mean, you have a great color and everything , but why do women do all that 'stuff' to their hair."
Why do women do all that stuff to their hair? He is asking someone who hasn't done anything to her hair since a spiral perm in... 1990. I would like to say that we do it for ourselves, because doing all that stuff to our hair makes us feel great. I am just not sure that is really why we do it.
Do we do it for men... to attract them; keep them; impress them... you know, it is part of the whole looking our best to capture the attention of the "right" guy?
Is it more to compete with or impress other women?
Is it simply the last touch to a great outfit?
For years I have witnessed the things women do to their hair. From perms to highlighting to covering gray. Some spend hours attempting to perfect their "look." I have known women who spend a fortune on a treatment that no one can see once it is complete. I have to admit that, even I, as a woman, have pondered why we do what we do.
For some women, it is a way of expressing their individuality and their personality. Others, it is a means of fitting in and following trends is important.
My daughter had great hair from the moment she started growing hair (which was after the age of 1). It is a reddish gold color with curls that aren't too tight or too loose. She doesn't have a lot, but she doesn't need a lot. She is, however, very particular about how it is cut and how it looks (despite what her dance teacher wants; she does her own thing).
I am not sure when my hair truly started looking great - though I did know I had great hair by the time I was a freshman in high school.
That said, honestly, what is great hair? Mine has been called great by women, sexy by some guys, and used in other ways by others. They seem to be able to picture grabbing it etc. Delightful! (eye roll)
First of all, the color of my hair is weird. It is red in some lights and brown in others and there is a gold hint from time to time. It is long, thick, fine, and wavy. I don't do anything to it - never dye, highlight, perm, blow dry, curl, spray. It is just there.
I used to spend twelve dollars on a hair cut. I had nice hair and the point was simply to trim the ends etc. Pure maintenance. After one weird and crooked cut I called it quits and decided that I could afford to pay the money to truly get my hair cut. I have never looked back; my hair has never looked better!
How do I explain to a guy that it is pure luck that I was born with this hair and that the styles now tend to favor my type of hair? How do I explain that, if he recalls, it didn't look this good a few years ago. That, in the end, it is truly all about (in my case) a good cut.