But apparently some women don't.
This is something I have never understood. In my twenties the news circulated that women hit their sexual peak in their early thirties. I could not imagine what my life would be like in my thirties given my desires in my late twenties; how could it get better than that?
I Should have paid much more attention in my late twenties and enjoyed myself much more as it didn't get better. My drives and desires didn't diminish; the time I had to enjoy them did. Now, some women, in my situation, would have simply given up. After all, when does a single working mother have the time or energy to engage in such activities? But I am, after all, "The Exception!" This was not something I was willing to lose without a fight! Sure I don't have time to enjoy myself as much as I would like (and honestly, men my age don't have that kind of time either in my experience - or the energy) but I was willing to give up frequency to ensure consistency and quality.
I have, with great effort at times, managed to maintain this aspect of my life. Thankfully as I am a real witch without it. Given its importance in my life, I have that much more difficulty understanding why women choose to let this part of their life end. But they do. I know a woman who has chosen to end that part of her life completely - and she is not yet 40, is married to a gorgeous guy, and he is still attracted to her and they love one another. She stopped shortly before the birth of her youngest child (who is now eight) saying that she is just too busy and tired with the kids and the house. Who knows. I know that I could not choose to live like that.
Despite the physical pleasure, for me it is also time to be a woman, an adult, and express a part of me that goes without expression throughout most of my daily life. There are so many things that mark adulthood for me: working, mortgage, parenthood, and other forms of responsibility. one of the most pleasurable aspects of being an adult is enjoying sex in all its simple; complex; creative; passionate; demanding; gentle; primal; and emotional forms.