I enjoy meeting and talking to new people. If the connection is right and the conversation lacks confinement, I can sit back, relax, and talk for hours. Relaxing into a conversation, allowing myself to truly listen to what is being said, I find myself privy to interesting ideas, notions, and perspectives I have never considered.
This is one such example:
(I am paraphrasing what a new guy friend said)
Size doesn't matter to men. It isn't until women become involved that size begins to matter. It is about wanting to please a woman and be seen as good.
Intriguing. (Such conversations are one of the many reasons I love talking to and having men in my life)
If women are removed from the equation, men simply wouldn't be concerned over their size - 5" or 9" - it would all be the same and irrelevant.
Would it - seriously?
Perhaps I have simply bought into the urban legend that men are consumed with size - the bigger the better - as if it is a sign of masculinity, virility, and fertility. The essence of man is entombed in 4-9 inches of skin and blood.
And now I learn that I may be mistaken. It is women; a nuance of performance anxiety; and the desire of a man to engage and please a woman that draws attention to size.
This idea asks that I open my mind just a bit more to consider a very different perspective - and I do. I can see the logic behind the concept.
I then find myself wondering - are men truly that selfless that their desire to give the best possible to the woman in question asks that they reflect and take stock of the equipment they have on hand?
Or is it their desire to be the top cock on the block that provokes them to do and give the best possible to their mate?
*sigh* and men say that they are simple...