Just Run offered an interesting point on Friday's post:
"I think we tend to under estimate what is considered "great" by some men."
At first glance, I would like to believe that what is good for the goose is good for the gander, but it isn't. As I contemplated what Just Run wrote, I thought about my experiences, my reactions, and the reactions from the men involved. Even in those long term situations, there is a range of satisfaction from "not really" to "wow!" It is very much about the situation, the chemistry, my state of mind... so many factors go into whether or not it is something I enjoyed or the degree of my enjoyment.
I always assume that this is true for men as well.
Perhaps this is one of the millions of things I should not assume about men.
Is there such a thing as "unfulfilling sex" to a man?
I mean, seriously, I have never heard a guy say that he had a bad time with a woman. He might not want to see her again for whatever reason, but... it is not because the sex was truly bad or he was not satisfied with the outcome.
This is not to say that men do not have some sort of informal rating system. I would guess that they do (optimist that I am) I would like to think that they have some notion of those sessions that are better than the rest. Thus, they work up from good - good being the lowest possible score on their scale. Mind blowing being the highest?
And what constitutes "mind blowing" status?
I can not speak for all women, but for me personally, mind blowing is a potential outcome, but I am not sure how much of it is dependent upon male performance? I would say that performance, by both parties, is important, but so is the connection, the moods of both parties... that kind of thing that is more mental than physical.
*sigh* I think about all the work, creativity, and imagination I put into my interaction with men throughout the years; all the attention I have given to ensuring that they fully enjoy themselves etc... and now I am realizing that perhaps men are easily satisfied. Perhaps the creativity and research are lost on them because it is good with or without the novelty or the innovation.
All the hours... All the research and experimentation...
And all you guys want is a woman's body!