How do men do it? Why is it that they seek younger women for affairs, entanglements, flings, or even dates?
When I turned 35 I decided that I had entered midlife. In keeping with my male counterparts, I would seek the things that many men do... a variety of partners younger than themselves. I was, to be blunt, looking for a boy toy.
I had various offers, tried a few, and discovered that... I don't get it!
I am not sure that I see what the draw is to a partner vastly younger than oneself?
Perhaps it is personality types? I like men with whom I can actually talk; who know what it is to carry on a conversation; and who can express their thoughts (yes, they have them) with ease and who demonstrate a good grasp of the English language.
Perhaps if I were able to find a boy toy with these characteristics, I could understand the draw to the younger generation. (I do know that they exist but perhaps not in this part of Virginia?) *sigh* but I did not find such a specimen. As it happened, I had more success finding these men in my own age group if not just a tad older.
"I am a strategic planner" a friend informed me on the phone this morning. He was talking about his search for a new home and examining the commute, but I have been thinking about what he said.
I can be a strategic planner too! The first thing I need to consider is changing my midlife plans to reflect more the reality of my life. I seem to draw and be drawn to men my own age if not older. So... maybe I should see if older men have something to offer! Maybe they aren't worn out? Perhaps they are not suffering from fatigue? They might even understand the value of a conversation, the nuances of the English language, and how to engage in fun and flirtatious banter? These older men might even understand that sex is that much better when the mind is involved and engaged.
What a novel idea!
And thus, the search for the boy toy ends and the quest for an older man begins!