My parents were in town over the holidays. While the Diva was sad at their departure, I think that the adults were all quite ready to return to their normal lives. There is just so much together time a few adults can take!
But, as often happens when I am around my parents, I start considering the lack of a companion in my own life. Sure, my parents are typical married people. They snip at one another or get on each others nerves. They have their own pet peeves about the other person. But, at the end of the day, they are a team. They are best friends, share a life while leading their own, and are secure in their relationship. They have raised two kids and now are enjoying their lives in a whole different way.
I breathed a sigh of relief when they left Tuesday morning; and yet, I have to admit that having that adult conversation in my house was nice. Seeing their companionship was… nice.
I then chatted with a friend who is experiencing challenges with his son. Together he and his wife are working to find ways to help the child. They are a team, two people turning toward one another to work through the situation and to find answers and help their son.
Again, I found myself wondering just what that would be like… what it would be like to have a partner. To be a member of a team? To share a life while living a life of your own? What is it like to know that someone has your back… and it isn’t just the guy down the street but your best friend and partner?
I remembered sitting in the hospital room when the Diva swallowed the magnetic rock holding a stuffed dog and doing all I could not to break down. Alone. No companion, no best friend, no man to hold me and assure me that whatever happened, we were in it together.
Just as there will be no companion or partner or man to hold my hand this weekend and glow with pride as my Diva takes the stage and shares her love and passion with a few hundred people.
I found myself wondering how single parents do it without that partner and companion. I found myself in aw of those people – in pure and simple aw. How do they do it?