“I’m going to be in DC…” These are words I enjoy reading or hearing. Oh what fun, a friend is coming to town. I envision time spent laughing and chatting or exploring the different parts of the city or the area. If the person happens to be a man with whom I have enjoyed a past, I wonder if anything will transpire. In all cases, my reaction is one of pleasure as this message comes from someone who has invested time and energy to keep in touch. We have shared stories and ideas. Or in the case of men, perhaps it is just the friendly update from time to time. Point being that we have kept in touch.
My reaction is a bit (read a lot) different when the note is an e-mail that drops into my inbox out of the blue from someone I have not seen or chatted with in months if not years. When the person is someone who doesn’t ask how I am, fill me in on anything about himself, or say much more than:
“I’m going to be in DC, perhaps we can….”
These notes are usually from men and usually the “…” is something that he wants and believes he doesn’t have to put into writing. He has this odd idea that “…” is going to happen given that he has not bothered to connect with me in X number of months. He believes that “…” is going to be something I put as a high priority.
He believes in correctly! The man is sadly mistaken!