“I think he is just 100% flirt.” I write about a man with whom I am exchanging banter.
“You are probably right, but what are you?”
“I am not a flirt.”
“You are a flirt – not a tease but a flirt”
Is this guy serious? I am so not a flirt. I wouldn’t know how to flirt with a strange man if my life depended upon it. Elizabeth Taylor I am not!
The conversation has me considering though, what is a flirt?
I admit, I flirt. I am great with the banter, the word play, the smiles, and the attentiveness… as long as I know the man in question. Even then, I only flirt when there is something else there. It is a two way street – a game that requires two players.
Throw me in with strange men and, well, I am all business and professionalism. Sure, if there is an attractive guy and there is a spark of chemistry, I might notice and flirt a little but… that is a big if. I am much more likely to be the quiet observer or to play the hostess attempting to introduce or to provide a comfortable environment than to flirt or charm my way through the crowd.
I am sure that most of my guy friends would attest, outside the comfort of a known relationship, I am so not a flirt. I am the sweet quiet one. I am the one who listens and genuinely cares. I am not the one who ends up going home with the guy at the end of the evening. Still waters might run deep but it takes a patient and interested man to see just how deep my waters run!
“You’re a flirt” a different friend tells me on the phone when I ask him the question.
These guys are no longer my friends as I am so not a flirt
“I didn’t flirt with you. You noticed me for my assets, not because I flirted.”
“True… but you are a flirt. In today’s world it is easy. You can flirt via e-mail, Facebook, the phone…”
“I don’t flirt with you via e-mail” (he isn’t on Facebook)
“Most of the time you do.”
I am coming, once again, to the conclusion that I do not understand men. On this topic, we just do not agree. I do not consider myself a flirt, which both friends agree that I am – especially if I have been introduced to someone. But then again, what do these two men know (and they have never met or talked).
They don’t always agree on everything – like one is a Tech Fan while the other is Kentucky all the way. But when it comes to me, they often agree on everything. They even agree that any man would want a picture of my assets…
And what do I say in response to that… Nothing!! Still waters run deep, you know…