How is it that I feel rejected when I truly never had an interest in engaging from the beginning?
Rejection is a funny thing. I suppose that I, like others possibly, want to be found interesting, engaging, and attractive. But I don't find everyone all of these nor do I believe that I am all of these to everyone. Knowing this, I rarely feel rejected. Things just don't work. People move on. The world keeps right on spinning.
Then there is a guy who defies the male code of ethics. He is honest. Rather than telling me what he thought I wanted to hear, he told me what he felt, which was nothing.
"I am just not feeling it."
Stunned. I was literally stunned.
Don't get me wrong. I appreciate honesty. I think highly of a man who will speak his mind, hold nothing back, and ensures that I know how things are. I give the same in return. I was stunned because we had been chatting for less than five minutes when he said this. And because no one has ever said this to me face to face.
I wasn't interested. I didn't feel that "click" at any point during those first (less than) five minutes. In the end, I am probably grateful that his statement saved us both a lot of time an effort. Where as he was willing to make that snap decision, I was not. There is a part of me that just likes people, so I was willing to spend time with him and get to know him a bit as a person once removing him from the "sexy man" category.
Apparently he was not interested in getting to know one another .
So, why do I feel rejected? Is it because I see value in a person enough that it is not a waste of time to give them my attention for an hour? Or perhaps because he made a snap decision based upon, what? Or maybe it is because he said what I felt and have never had the nerve to say to anyone?
All the same, it stung - I know not why.