As I was saying - I put my shopping aside for a minute and considered his question, would I go to the club if my significant other wanted me to go?
After a minute or two of contemplation... I would go. It would not be my idea; I would not instigate this venture, but I would go if that is what he seriously wanted. I would hope that, in asking me to accompany him, he would understand that I would be going to share the experience with him over a natural interest on my part... and that I would probably not get much out of it!
I have no interest in clubs, but I do have an interest in my significant other. perhaps it is a bit unorthodox, but... the rationale behind my final answer is more about spending time together and the openness of the relationship over anything else. Maintaining an open, honest, and non-judgmental relationship are key to me. And if going to a club with him, upon his thoughtful request will promote this, then... I am up for it.
That said, there are some clubs that would give me greater pause if the same question were posed. There is a point, perhaps, where my desire to share and forward an honest and open relationship meets the walls of my comfort zone. In that situation, my comfort zone is probably going to win - not meaning that the relationship is no longer a priority but that it becomes more an experiment in trust and understanding and such. Am I okay if he attends such clubs? yes just as I would hope that he is okay with my not going.
I concluded the call and the shopping (found 2 pairs of just right jeans for the Picky Diva) and left for the day, but I didn't stop thinking about the conversation.
What if the question were reversed?
Although male strippers are not as common, they do exist and women do patronize the shows.
The question is, for those women who do like to go to such clubs or shows such as Thunder Down Under... would you ever consider taking a man?
Men, would you go to such a show if your significant other wanted you to accompany her?
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I've never been to a male strip club or even seen a male stripper for that matter! Is that weird? But anyway, if I were to go, I don't think I would want to take me significant other. My girlfriends, sure, but not a man I was in a relationship with. I can't tell you why exactly except that I think it would not be a comfortable situation for me.
Now that it's reversed, I totally get my answer from yesterday. I have no interest in seeing either sex in a club or in some exotic dancing/review environment. I think it is just my personality.
I don't really have anything against shows like "Thunder Down Under" (though I do happen to know they are no longer ALL Australian men) but paying $80 for a seat? Not gonna happen.
Isnt 'Thunder Down Under' a 'show', rather than a pure strip club experience? If so, I would go, why not?
A pure male strip club... not so much. I mean, I think the ratio of girls that go to girl clubs compared to that of guys that go to guy clubs... probably significantly higher.
I guess it's a good thing we're talking about going to the titty-bar and no shootin' up heroin or something. If everyone else is jumping off the bridge, I guess it depends on how high it is. :)
Sure I would go. How could it hurt me? And maybe it would inspire her in bed afterward! But I seriously doubt I'll ever be asked, and I know I won't ask her to go to a strip club with me.
Don't go hmmm. You knew a place pretty easy.
I don't enjoy going to strip places in general. I would pass and hope my request would be understood. If she wanted to go I would be okay with it, but would like to know how come? Was something missing in our relationship or some need of hers. Just to improve our relationship.
I don't like strip clubs, never have, as I'd rather stripping be reserved for the bedroom ;) Having said that I was a bar man at a club that ran a male strip review for a couple of nights and women definitely act out their fantasies more than men do in these venues. They are louder, raunchier and downright scary :)
Honestly? I'm of the opinion that all of my, and my partner', experiences with nudity concerning the opposite sex should be with one another. And a man who asks me to go to a strip club with him is likely not a man I'd be keeping.
Beth - It isn't weird. I have never been to one either and have no interest in going. And I wouldn't take a guy but I am not totally sure why other than it is not my thing to go at all.
JR - I am not going to pay that either... not my personality either. It is for the bedroom, kitchen, living room, den... ya know... something personal not a public thing.
Scotty - Yes, it is a show more than anything else, but it isn't like Blue Men (which would be fabulous to see...)
Not so sure about the ratio. I am sure that there are guys who enjoy going to those clubs and women who enjoy the other. As I have never been to either, I am not sure I know.
Aaron - This bridge isn't very high at all - very low risk blog! ;) (PS - I loved your post about the chai!!)
Walt - I have to ask, why wouldn't you ask her to go with you?
Mike - In your area of the country there are a variety of clubs. I lived there for a while...There are a variety of clubs here as well. They just aren't my scene, but I know men who enjoy them. Nothing against the women with whom they are involved, they just like going.
Scorpy - And you thought you were out of post ideas... women's behavior in such a situation might be quite entertaining to read!! So you experienced this and never imagined what it would be like to have that attention directed at... you? ;)
Teri - Does this include visual experiences as well as physical - or just the physical?
Yes. A little leeway, I'm okay with. Movies often include nudity. Porn movies are trash. They are of no use to anyone. I have seen some "instructional" sex videos which I found to be very useful, for several reasons. But in general, indulging in nudity with the opposite sex is off limits. I find it to be very unhealthy and makes it impossible to really protect the union.
...i should have seen this coming...
my answer is 'no freakin way'
male strip clubs should be banned, and female strip clubs should be everywhere!
;0)
(also, 'thunder down under' is a term i use with the kids for breaking wind)
I have absolutely ZERO interest in watching 200 women fawn over other men. I also have absolutely ZERO interest in looking at other men. I don't even think *I* am attractive (kidding).
Maybe I'd go if I was paranoid b/c I see a lot of porn online that has women at those clubs. Do they really suck off strippers to assert their sexual freedom from men?
I want no part of that.
Seeing men strip would be of no interest to me, but I have been to a strip joint or two.
As an observer or people, I got a lot out of it, not only watching the strippers but the men and any women in tow.
It is hardly erotic, but it's sexual, if you get the difference. Didn't turn me on, but porn does. When I took a pole-dance class and a strip class, I liked how it made me feel. Never did either for a lover, though. And I can't say for sure if those stripping get off on it (although my strip teacher, a former pro, said she did. To each her own I guess), and I friend I was going to blog about soon who strips has her own opinions about it.
I would go with my lover if he wanted me to go, but most of the men I've been attracted to lately aren't all that interested. Maybe that's a gift from the Universe kinda thing!
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