I read somewhere, at some point, that the voice is a wonderful tool. Through our voice, we can express intent and desire - the words often don't matter as much as the way they are spoken. It is the intent the gives them meaning; the intent that holds them afloat and gives them bite. I remember the author suggesting that it is possible to seduce someone through the recitation of a shopping list, further illustrating the power of intent and desire and tone over the words spoken.
I am sadly, not convinced.
I think that there is more to it in that a person has to be drawn to the voice, to find it attractive in its pitch and timber. If a person is not a "voice person" to begin with, I am not sure that the exercise works. IN fact, I have a feeling that it doesn't.
A friend of mine is not a "voice person." He says that my voice is fine, but no matter how much intent or desire I put behind my words, he is not impressed (and this is a guy who is attracted to me in general). This revelation stunned me. A man could resist the draw of my voice? Me, the woman who can't get male callers off the phone? Me who has been told that I probably had a viable future in the adult phone industry? But my voice does nothing for him, regardless of the intent behind and beneath my words.
Unlike my friend, I am a voice person. Within minutes I can tell if I am attracted to a man or not through his voice. Is it deep? Is it rich? Does it express passion and humor or is it more flat? Does it send shivers up my spine? How would it sound whispering in my ear? Is it open or closed? These questions are not consciously asked, but they are questions that I can answer following a conversation.
I had an e-mail from a man this morning who will be contributing to my report. It started quite formal, as most initial business interactions do, and then the tone changed. My informality allowed the tone to change. I found myself wondering about this man - how does he sound? Is he has formal in speech as his initial e-mail?
It is interesting to finally talk to someone known only through writing. The voice adds something to the words on the page. I was actually surprised to note the changes in the way I read the posts written after having a conversation with the writer. Crazy Computer Dad is one such example. He is a great dad, very active and involved; a dad that loves his son openly and with such honestly. I read this from his words. After talking to him though - after listening to the tones and variations of his voice, I read his writing with more depth. This is really a great guy with a lot to give. The kind of guy that is fun to hang out with, easy to laugh, and ever so interesting. I had that idea from his writing, but his voice added something beyond the written word. His words now have more personality and charm - both of which this man has in spades.
In the world of texting and e-mailing, I note the loss of the voice, the warmth and depth and expression that can occur only in person or through a phone call. I spend so much of my time entertaining relationships via type of one sort or another, that I sometimes find myself wondering about people... the way they sound, the way the voice fluctuates, the sound of a chuckle or a full laugh, or even the way the voice sounds when it smiles (yes, a voice can smile).
I wonder if my very vague ideas of how each person whose writing I read might sound? Does T have an accent - is it Louisiana or Texas or somewhere in between? Is Just Run as full of life and fun as I read in her posts? Mamma Llama - an accent like mine - or perhaps a gentle voice with a hint of passion? What about Mike and TAG - accents, richness, depth? Teri is definitely as sassy and full of life as her writing portrays. Harassed... how would her voice sound? Does David sound like the California guys I have always known - the swagger and the confidence and the humor giving a charm that is different than that found in the south? And 7 Seas, is there an accent after living abroad? Scotty, does his voice capture the honesty that is illustrated through his writing? Scorpy has the sexy Aussie thing going for him - he can't lose! I wonder if any one wonders about my voice? I wonder if my actual voice is reflected in the words that I type and the thoughts I convey?